July 2012
47 posts
Longest Week Ever:
- lost a really close friend
- cancelled vacation
- had to work on requested days off
- terrible cough/can’t breathe
- questioning everything
- wanderlust again (i don’t think it ever left)
- constantly nostalgic
i try really hard to be a positive person, look for the good, and to resist complaining by embracing the unexpected … but lately it’s taken all the energy i have to not become an infinite abyss of bitterness.
i can’t focus on anything. it seems i spend all my energy working for other people’s gain and at the end of the day i’m too tired to do anything i want to do.
i don’t want to be scared anymore.
- scared if i quit my job i can’t afford to live
- scared if i don’t quit my job i’ll never do anything that makes me happy
- scared to take a lot of time off to travel & see everyone i love
- scared of losing even more people that i love
i don’t wanna live in fear. i just want to feel like myself again. if this is what “being an adult” is then i would like one refund, please.
Male privilege is setting world sports records and not having your record questioned because you happen to be female and outdoing the top male competitors.
http://sports.yahoo.com/news/olympics—controversy-surrounds-world-record-400-im-of-china-s-16-year-old-ye-shiwen-.html
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“Women are socialized to make men feel good. We’re socialized to “let you down easy.” We’re not socialized to say a clear and direct “no.” We’re socialized to speak in hints and boost egos and let people save face. People who don’t respect the social contract (rapists, predators, assholes, pickup artists) are good at taking advantage of this. “No” is something we have to learn. “No” is something we have to earn. In fact, I’d argue that the ability to just say “no” to something, without further comment, apology, explanation, guilt, or thinking about it is one of the great rites of passage in growing up, and when you start saying it and saying it regularly the world often pushes back. And calls you names.”
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The art of “no.” « CaptainAwkward.com (via delascielo)
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